I am a successful failure. Does that sound like an oxymoron? In my nearly 69 years of life I have experienced many successes, and close to as many failures.
I became pretty savvy mechanically in working on cars as a young man, but not until after enduring several failures. For example, there was the time when I was 16 and decided to rebuild the carburetor on a 1958 Studebaker. I successfully removed it from the intake manifold. So far so good. Then, as I took the carburetor apart, springs, needles and pins flew everywhere. So far not so good. I reassembled it with the items found in the rebuild kit, but there were a few pieces left over and I was clueless as to where they went. The car never ran again (at least not while we owned it).
Then there was the time I changed the oil in my 1962 Chevrolet station wagon. I drained the crank case, replaced the oil filter, poured five quarts of fresh oil into the engine, and fired her up. That was the moment I realized that the filter was not properly seated on the engine, and in just a few seconds, those five quarts of fresh oil lay all over the parking lot of the apartment complex we were living in. Let’s just say the manager of the complex was less than happy with me.
Eventually, I became adept mechanically with cars. I successfully repaired or replaced transmissions and rear ends. We literally saved thousands of dollars in the early years of our fifty-year marriage by me being a do-it-yourself mechanic. But it was only after some glaring failures.
By the mid-nineteen seventies, I was a journeyman set up and service technician who worked on very expensive precision machinery. I became very good at working with my hands, diagnosing trouble, and creating solutions.
So, what’s the point? Everybody fails. The trick is learning how to fail forward by learning from your mistakes, beginning again more intelligently, and by building something impressive with what is left over after the failure.
On November 9th, 2009, the pride of the U.S. Navy at the time was steaming towards New York City. The USS New York is a San Antonio class amphibious assault ship. The billion-dollar, 25,000 ton vessel is 684 feet long and 105 feet wide. It can carry 300 sailors and 700 Marines. But what makes this ship noteworthy in the context of this article is that it was partially constructed with 7.5 tons of steel from the pile of rubble left after the 9-11 attacks on the World Trade Center in 2001. We used the remnants of our momentary defeat to create something that can enhance our security and threaten our enemies in the future. What a cool story.
Here’s the application: we all face defeat and failure as we try to do this thing called life. Our attempts at building a relationship, home, or career are sometimes met with unexpected devastation. Perhaps there is a significant relationship in your life that screams, “FAILURE!” Maybe you are one of the many who have too much month left at the end of your money. A “secret sin” may be causing you to feel like you are less of a person than you want to be. Your repeated attempts at victory over it have only led to repeated falls. May I make a few suggestions?
- Don’t do life alone. God has created you for community. Find godly people who will not only do “stuff” with you, but “life” with you. Lifeway Church has lots of them! Welcome them into the area of your struggle and listen for the wisdom of God that may fall from their lips.
- Develop a new approach to life, one that is based on the wisdom of the One who invented life and created you! If you want to be someone you’ve never been, you have to do something you’ve never done. Growth and victory are a by-product of intentional effort and surrender to the Father.
- Keep putting one foot in front of the other. It is always too soon to quit. I ask myself these two questions on a regular basis, especially when feeling discouraged: 1. “What do I stand to lose if I quit now?” 2. “What do I stand to gain if I stay in the game?”
Failing does not make you a failure; refusing to try again does. I sense that there are many of you feeling beat up by the blows of frustration, defeat, and loss in certain areas of your life today. Let’s learn a lesson from Steve Sabol, the clumsy mechanic, and the USS New York. You can pick through the rubble of your past mistakes and find the materials you need to build a better and stronger you.
I call you up, friend! You are not alone, and you will make it. God believes in you, and so do I. I will close with a tidbit of wisdom from the apostle Paul…
Galatians 6:9 (TLB), And let us not get tired of doing what is right, for after a while we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t get discouraged and give up.
Learn from your mistakes and stay in the game! Be a successful failure.